Couples therapy

When relationships are difficult, many couples wonder. Do we really belong together? Often these people are simply missing knowledge and skills about how to keep their friendship alive and manage conflict capably and constructively. Once both partners know how to apply the right principles, even when your difficulties have become serious, amazing things can happen.
Over 30 years of scientific couples research by John Gottman and others has shown what leads to successful relationships and what destroys relationships. This study has produced scientifically validated tools which allow couples to dramatically change the course of their relationship for the better.

Common concerns and specializations:

  • Learning to communicate effectively and openly
  • Expressing love, affection, respect, and support
  • Changing old habits and patterns that don't work
  • Escaping from repeated cycles of conflict
  • Sex/intimacy concerns
  • Parenting challenges (and new parenting)
  • Household, chores, and family-work balance
  • Working out specific issues that seem impossible to resolve
  • Learning to compromise
  • Finances and money
  • Coping with crises, loss, illness, and death
  • Productively dealing with betrayal, blame or guilt
  • Anger
  • Pre-marital counseling
  • Figuring out if it's time to end a relationship and move on
  • Learning to grow as couple without giving up individual dreams and goals

My work with each couple begins with assisting you both in taking the time needed to clarify and define your goals for therapy during the intake sessions. Then we together create a plan/path based on those goals. You will see the patterns keeping you stuck in the same recurring struggles and how to approach them differently. The ways in which we approach your goals are tailored to the unique people that you are, and to the relationship you are wanting to create together.

It doesn’t have to take years to manifest and maintain that connection and spark again, but it does take focused attention and commitment to prioritizing your relationship.

On average I see couples for 15 to 25 sessions, ranging from 4mos-1year. Upon ending therapy, some couples choose to continue with sessions over time (1-4x yr.), for relapse prevention.

Individual therapy

I work at uncovering and breaking unhealthy cycles, and negative self-perceptions, that get in the way of your happiness.
My goal is that you develop a more expansive, positive and compassionate sense of self. This renewed sense of self you walk away with is stronger and clearer about who you are, what you want, and how to move forward in your life so you can get it!

Common concerns and specializations:

  • Depression/isolation/suicidal thoughts
  • Anxiety/Panic attacks
  • Obsessive thoughts/ruminating thoughts
  • Anger/Emotional reactivity
  • Relationship troubles
  • Family cutoff/ Family conflict
  • Social skills/ Social struggles
  • Abuse/Trauma (past or present)

My work is informed by theories of Contextual family systems theory, Cognitive Behavioral Theory, Motivational Interviewing, Collaborative Problem Solving and Trauma informed care.
You can expect me to be warm, nonjudgmental and interactive while helping with your issues. I'm committed to creating safety and confidentiality in our sessions. People of all cultures and sexual orientations are most welcome.

Child/Family therapy

I specialize in therapeutic work with toddlers, children, and adolescents who are struggling with a range of emotional, behavioral and social concerns.
I believe every child and parent has inherent strengths. My therapy approach brings this back to focus. They are not “bad kids” and “bad parents”, but there are circumstances that can reinforce or bring out unwanted behaviors and responses. It is so easy to get caught up in noticing the things that aren’t working, and to minimize or forget what is going well. I help parents acknowledge what their child is doing right and support them seeing their own strengths as parents. Children also begin to explore and build up on their own skills, competences and unique gifts. This change leads in better behaviors and most importantly a stronger parent-child relationship.
Common concerns and specializations:

  • Challenging behaviors
  • Relationship between parents, children and siblings
  • Behavioral concerns at school
  • Feeling of sadness, frustration or anxiety
  • Explosive behaviors
  • Rough transitions – divorce, separation, etc
  • Sensitive children
  • Worrying
  • PTSD and trauma

I provide a safe space for children to explore their feelings, express what is underneath the surface and process trauma. I use play therapy and sandtray as well as structured activities to work towards goals. Children who work with me develop skills to express themselves in ways that can be heard and learn to regulate their emotions and problem solve.
I also support parent in raising Emotional Intelligent child. Gottman evidence-based approach discovered that if your child understands and regulate her/his own emotions will help them to succeed in life in a myriad of different ways – they will be more self-confident, perform better in social and academic situations, and even become physically healthier.